“Happiness is like A Donut”

I was recently sitting on the couch with my 4-year-old grandson, Noah. He was using my cell phone to play video games and wanted to download a new game. He kept trying without my assistance because at this age, they want to do everything by themselves. He finally asked for my help and as it turns out, he needed the password to my account. Once I entered my password, the game was finally able to download. He looked up at me with those big brown eyes and that smile of satisfaction and excitedly said to me, “Grammy, I’m so happy!” I then said to him, “Noah, what does that feel like?” His response blew me away. He said, “Like a donut!” At that moment, I felt as if I could literally feel his happiness. His word picture affected me mentally, physically and emotionally. It was a moment I will never forget.

As a Social & Emotional Intelligence Coach, I’m always acutely aware of how people in general convey their emotions during conversation. It’s been my experience that most dance around their feelings and often share what they think as opposed to what they feel. Many relationships go awry because of our inability to recognize, connect with and effectively share an emotion in the moment; thus my amazement at my grandson’s ability to demonstrate social & emotional intelligence at such a young age. It was a moment that deepened our relationship and made me fall deeper in love with him. I often wonder, what would the world be like if most adults could be that openly vulnerable and childlike in their communication with their spouses, friends and family? (Matthew 18:2, 3) What if the listener could create a place of safety for heartfelt dialogue and sheer vulnerability? (Proverbs 20:5) We no doubt, would move to a place in our relationships where we could not only hear the words coming from our partner’s mouth, but see, feel and be moved to respond appropriately once the words have landed in our heart. Yes…happiness for Noah is like a Donut. So, tell me what is happiness to you?

20 thoughts on ““Happiness is like A Donut””

  1. What a beautiful story about your grandson I too will have a donut I like the story if more people can be that way the world will be more happier we all can learn something from your grandkids.

    1. Indeed we would be happier because we would be able to connect with people on a deeper level. You are one of those people who share their emotions with ease. Thanks for being you.

  2. Happiness is the opposite of sadness, so I thought about things that made me sad. This world and all the atrocities that man has done to each other. The opposite of that, paradise. That being said, “happiness is seeing myself and all my international brother/sisterhood in a world that is new”. That one thought always take me to my happy place.

  3. I love the freeness and honesty of his expression without fear of judgment. My happiness is the freeness to discover and explore.

    1. Exploration brings about enthusiasm and excitement! Just the thought of it makes me feel giddy inside. I’m always open to exploring and learning about who I am internally. I feel forever blessed when others allow me to share in their journey to self discovery or their findings. What a gift that is and it brings joy to my heart. Thank you for sharing Donna!

  4. Happiness to me is sitting on the beach with my toes nestled in the warm sand and the rays from the sun warming my skin with the birds cooing and soaring high and the waves crashing toward the shore and the wind gently blowing across my face. The peace and serenity that comes over me is so satisfying to my soul. It nurtures me on many different levels and takes me away from the rat race of life. My slice of paradise.

    1. Thank you for sharing Shero! It appears that we need a vacation to the Caribbean! Great description of happiness. I can see, feel and hear your slice of paradise through your description. It brought a smile to my face and warmth in my heart. Great job Shero!

  5. Happiness for me is like the Ocean. I love the Ocean! I love to see it, I love to play in it because it makes me calm. The Ocean goes farther than the eye can see. I love to see the sun set by the Ocean. The Ocean puts me in awe of God’s power and creation. The Ocean makes me happy.

    So when I feel happy, I am calm, my mind is clear and ready to receive.I am able to show and share my love and I am able to connect to the creator. Then I am able to show my love ones and friends my smile and love for them.

    1. Wow!!! Keeshi. Thank you for sharing…you took me to a place emotionally. Ahhhhh the majesty of our Creator and his power is definitely something that can be experienced in the ocean and bring us happiness. Fortunately, because of the way were created, we can access those wonderful moments of happiness within our mind and heart without even being there. You took me there Ms. Keeshi…thank you for your vivid word picture! It was so real, I almost need sunscreen:-) Great job!

  6. Hi Cathy! I’m still figuring out what happiness is to me. I’ve had brief moments where I’ve felt like “this is happiness”, but am not convinced ☺️. I look forward to achieving it though. Hope this makes sense lol.

    Really enjoy brewing coffe with Cathy. Miss you a lot.

    1. Hi Benika! Thank you for sharing…in those brief moments of happiness, what sparks that feeling of happiness? I can appreciate your thought of those moments being brief. Emotions come and go like the waves rolling upon the ocean. When we can can name them, articulate them and successfully manage that emotion we are increasing our EQ, emotional intelligence. The beauty of capturing that moment of happiness is that we can always access it later and relive it to the extent that it puts a smile on our face and lightens our heart. I miss you too Benika! I love seeing you on FB;-)

  7. Hi Cathy. Miss you much! This was right on time! Truly we have not because we ask not. We think we can do things on our own and we can not. Jesus is waiting for us to ask and our angels are waiting on our words to be released. As we ask, speak, give thanks things happen. Our faith is released in the finished works of Jesus. He knows what we have need of before we ask. But , we have to ask for our daily bread and provision.

    1. Hi Mary…I miss you too! In reading your response, I guess happiness can come in having the humility to ask for our daily needs. Thank you so much for sharing Mary.

  8. My first thought was happiness, is having coffee with Cathy, because I enjoy your webpage so much. But then l realized you were looking for Feelings, then I thought to me happiness feels like a song, not just any ole song, but a love song, one that stirs the emotion, you repeat in your head, all day long, you sing as it no one can hear you and makes your heart smile
    One day soon we’ll all be singing a new song,when love and happiness fills the whole earth. Psalms 98:1

    1. Awwwww..Thank you Kathy! You took me there, what a great description of happiness. You know I’ve been taking singing lessons and singing definitely takes me to a happy place. Because of your response, the next time I’m singing…I’m going to sing a little bit louder. Can’t wait til the whole earth sings in unison. Thanks for sharing Kathy!

  9. Thank you for your post Mrs Cathy. I really enjoyed it, also I miss you!

    Happiness for me is dancing (salsa, ballroom, stepping, bop & latin hustle). It gives me instant gratification! It’s a stress reliever and it always put me in a state of relaxation.

    1. Thank you Ms. LeAnna for your definition of happiness. I can hear the salsa music in my head. Yes, dancing is so much fun and totally changes your mood. Thank you for shaing and I miss you too.

      1. Happiness to me means ” FREEDOM”… being able to feel relaxed and be completely vulnerable and truthful. No drama
        and no stress around me… I don’t necessarily have to be around beautiful things to make me happy as long as I am with REAL, HEALTHY minded individuals who are
        up-lifting and encouraging. This makes me feel extremely happy inside!…. Due to Jehovah’s love very soon we will ALL truly experience what it TRULY means to be happy EVERY single moment of our day, I cant wait!!!!!!!!!!
        PS…Cathy, what an excellent topic to talk about, thinking about happiness … made me smile all while typing my thoughts. Thank you for reminding me how bright our future will be soon!

        1. Ahhhhh…I’ve experienced this kind of happiness myself. Makes me smile too. What a blessing to have friends that will allow us to have a space where we can communicate openly and be vulnerable. We are keenly aware of a child’s need to feel safe to openly communicate, however we don’t always recognize it when as adults we take we are sitting before someone who wants to openly express themselves and feel safe. In your words feel FREE! I am committed to creating a place of safety for my friends. Thank you Lisa for sharing;-)

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